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[cookiecookuk]

following on from my visit from occ health which went very well.

i do not know if occ health have contacted management and HR yet but all day  yesterday i had health and safety area manager shadow me all day clock watching and making little notes in her pad...she was bored witless and i got the impression that she thought she was wasting her time.

it was not nice having her watch me(i hate anyone watching over my shoulder) but i think it went well and i think she was shocked at how busy i was all day.

i even had my two smaller breaks were i take paper work outside and do so i can chill out and have a ciggie and even this she was happy with as i was still working.

so now me thinks it is crunch time and management and HR have to make a decision as to what to do with me....

watch this space.

[rose2008-2008]

YES,,, i agree ACAS are very good at advising,,, i have used them myself before Cookie.

[bitsnknots]

Good luck for tomorrow Cookie.  There's some good advice been given on this thread.  I'll be out all day tomorrow but that won't stop me thinking of you.  (((((((Cookie)))))))

[saasher2012]

I also send my good wishes, try & stay calm & stick to the facts & if you start to fluster stop! Take a deep breath & ask whoever is taking notes to recap for you , it will help you collect your thoughts & help calm you,(((()))).

[rainydaywoman11]

Dear Cookie,

I can only echo what everyone else has said, but both Edf and myself adviused you to record the meeting.  Not surreptiously, but out in the open.  My son says can you do it on your phone (as Ed said).  I think that is really very important.

Also, take your time if asked to answer a question, stallers like, (calmly) 'Oh I need a minute to think about that', or 'Let me consult my notes' and similar.  Keep your voice low and level if you can, no shrill and NO tears, no matter what, if you can manage.  And try not to use confrontational language like 'that's not true' but rather 'that is not how I recall it'.  I used to sit on the other side of the desk.  Try not to let them provoke you, deep breaths and think first.  I hope you don't think I am talking to you like you'rer a halfwit because I know you are not 

I wish you all the very best and will hear tomorrow night how you got on - could you maybe get a bottle of Rescue Remedy in time?   Just a thought.  Take care kiddo, get a good's night sleep, I'll be thinking about you.  I'm off to the Land of Nod, N night, Rainy xxx.

[captainbovine]

wow Rainy and Saasher, that's very good advice, I always let myself down as I get too emotional in things like that.

good luck Cookie!

[bitsnknots]

I tend to be like you CB.  I always feel like I'm letting myself down.  I know what I want to say but it never comes out the way I want it to.  Trying to stay calm is good advice.

[cookiecookuk]

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@rainydaywoman11 wrote:

Dear Cookie,

I can only echo what everyone else has said, but both Edf and myself adviused you to record the meeting.  Not surreptiously, but out in the open.  My son says can you do it on your phone (as Ed said).  I think that is really very important.

Also, take your time if asked to answer a question, stallers like, (calmly) 'Oh I need a minute to think about that', or 'Let me consult my notes' and similar.  Keep your voice low and level if you can, no shrill and NO tears, no matter what, if you can manage.  And try not to use confrontational language like 'that's not true' but rather 'that is not how I recall it'.  I used to sit on the other side of the desk.  Try not to let them provoke you, deep breaths and think first.  I hope you don't think I am talking to you like you'rer a halfwit because I know you are not 

I wish you all the very best and will hear tomorrow night how you got on - could you maybe get a bottle of Rescue Remedy in time?   Just a thought.  Take care kiddo, get a good's night sleep, I'll be thinking about you.  I'm off to the Land of Nod, N night, Rainy xxx.

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the bit about my mobile phone being used as a recorder made me giggle as my phone is as old as the hills so that may not be possible.:) i have a chat today with my collegue who is sitting in with me and she is going to take notes the same as me incase i forget something they said...thanks everyone for all your support and if i start getting stressed i will think FHG and imagine you all sitting watching us and that will make me smile....
thanks everyone

will be back tomorrow...

[ed_blackadder_1]

Go kick a** girl.

[merc1_clocks]

 Thinking about you today cookie 

[ed_blackadder_1]

[rose2008-2008]

Hope everything goes ok,,,,dont let them do you down our Cookie

[bitsnknots]

Hope that everything went well for you Cookie.

[cookiecookuk]

hello everyone thank you sao much for all your support.

today was a bl@@@y disaster but i am so angry and keep busting into tears that i can not type why tonight but will be back tomorrow to explain.

[saasher2012]

((((((Hugs))))))) understand! so sorry!!

[ed_blackadder_1]

Oh cookie so sorry, take your time love we will still be here.

[bitsnknots]

(((((Cookie))))))  I fully understand how you feel due to having lie about me and to me over a different matter and it does make you mad to say the least.  As ed says, take your time and come back and tell us how it went when you feel up to it.  We ain't going anywhere and we're always here for you.

Here you are - have some more hugs (((((Cookie)))))

[mouse4702]

Cookie my sweet, hugs here.  Keep in mind you can lose the battle but still win the war.  We're going nowhere and will be here for you xxx

[captainbovine]

  aawww don't be upset Cookie, we are here for you, just take your time xxxx

[rainydaywoman11]

Aaaw Coookie, that's garbage, try to take it easy.

[calibra101]

There is always a solution to a problem. Don't upset yourself , think positive. We will be here when you are ready to talk.