Might be moving home.. Am I doing the right thing?

[**streety**]

How are you all?

Had a major decision to make over the last couple of weeks and it's been hard.

Last year I was going to move into my Mums home until after going through the finances i realised I couldn't. One year on and our lodger has decided to probably move on, and the possibility of moving there has risen it's ugly head again.

It would mean some more space, the kids would be able to have their own room and with my son turning 11 and going to secondary school, that would be a bonus and we would have a garden...

My really big dilemma has been the fact that if we move we won't be able to stay forever, roughly 7 or 8 years.  If we stay in our flat we have the potential to stay for much longer if not forever, but at the flat we are running out of room. So in time I might find it really hard and have to search for somewhere else, who knows?

My argument for not going was security, and the kids would just have to put up with sharing until it became unbearable, then I'd sleep on the sofa maybe, as it cant be fun for a teenage girl to share a small space with her older brother.. I don't know.
Everyone I've spoken to think that while people have to make do with the space they have, as there is an opportunity to live in a bigger house (mortgage free) even though it's not forever, I should take it.

I should just jump of that cliff and go for it, even though I have no idea what will happen to us when it's sold (to pay for Mum's care)
So at the moment, this is what I've decided to probably do.
Just wondered if you guys thought the same if you were in my position.

i'm in bits about leaving my little flat, as I love it here, but trying to tell myself that people move all the time.

[kiss*my*pixel]

Hi Streety - I've only just read everything on "speed-read", but I think you should take the plunge and move. Your kids need the extra space now. (As well as needing their own private space, I believe it's actually illegal to have a boy and a girl over a certain age sharing a room, anyway)! In 7 or 8 years' time, they will all be older, and, who knows, they might not even be living with you. You could then move back to a smaller place 'cos you don't need the room.

Alzheimer's is such a horrid illness (my Grandad had it), I wish you well with your Mum.

But also wish you well with your decision - you have to think of you and your children and what's best for all of you. :-x

[ilove2patch]

Good decision Streety. I wish you all the best for the future.:-D

[merc1_clocks]

All the very best streety :-x

[mozart5255]

therewill be a cap on care costs.   

The cap on care costs, originally planned to be set at £75,000 and introduced in 2017, will now also be introduced in 2016 at a level of £72,000

This being only 3 years away.  the sale of the flat should cover this ?  

I would move.

its a shame that the house cannot be transfered to you,   or is it possible you could buy it from your mother?   paying her the mortgage rather than through a building society?

Shes allowed to gift you money each year nd perhaps this could be used to help pay the mortgage .????  

Have you taken legal advice on the best way to go forward.

In any case i would move to the house.

even if it has to be sold,  you will have a right to be rehoused.

you could become her full time carer with other carer support whiich means she could stay at home.

[borzoi369]

Glad you've made a decision 🙂

Some good points been made here and if the circumstances were different, wouldn't you be pleased to have such a house as your Mum's 🙂

If you list the pros and cons, I think the pros far outweigh the cons you've mentioned - enjoy your new home for all of you :-x

[numptz2012]

Also had a speed read as been AWOL.

Really think you've made the best choice Streety and I wish you all the best of luck for the future:-x

[captainbovine]

good luck to you Streety, it's the best thing to do, move. You'll all feel better and more relaxed with more space.

I wish you well for the future. xxx

[**streety**]

Thanks :-x

How I'm going to get us packed away and moved I don't know!  Its taken me hours to de clutter the kitchen cupboards and clean them. 5 black sacks of complete rubbish in the boot of the car..

I've a friend with a van, that'll shift the large things.  However I need to shift mums bed and sofa out before i can move mine in.  I'm hoping the lodger moves out a day earlier than planned! 

I could wait another week, but all things and motions have been put in place my end so I really should just go.  Plus, if I wait any longer I may well change my mind

[mandymoosie]

I'm sure you've made the right decision 😄

I wish you and all the family all the very best, enjoy and be happy in your new home Streety :-x

[**streety**]

In my 'old' home moosie.  I'm going back to where it all began

[mandymoosie]

Well that's even better then Streety 😄

I know that the actual moving and packing and sorting is horrendous, but it will all be so worth it, and just think, you'll all be able to enjoy the garden this Summer too :-x

[numptz2012]

You'll be fine Streety:-x we moved wiv our car and Uncy Ken lent us his trailer, we had 19yrs worth of carp to sort and pack too. Neighbours must of thought the Beverly Hill Billies were moving in:8}