How do you prefer to be addressed?

When I have a hospital/dental appt etc, I prefer to be called by my christian name rather than "Mrs ....." I think it puts you more at ease especially when you are likely to be nervous to begin with. What do others prefer?

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Re: How do you prefer to be addressed?

until i tell them what to call me, i expect and prefer to be addressed by my  surname


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With Towery there. Only polite.

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i dont care..........as long as im next Smiley Happy

 

i do hate when on the phone, im called mrs O'HAG-gon, its pronounced O'heg-gan Smiley Sad

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Don't laugh, Tara.

 

Having married a man with Irish ancestry and an Irish name I have become expert at finding us mis-spelled in other peoples computer systems.  However daughter has applied for work experience at a school, it suddenly ocurred to her that she would be addressed using her surname.  It suddenly ocurred to her whilst I was driving her down the road. Mu-um, she says, how should I pronounce my name? So glad i wasn't drinking a coffee.

 

We get all sorts but she really has no idea of the correct way.  Like me she has always just accepted whatever people call her and, in the modern world, that is usually your first name!

 

The matter will be referred to her dad if she cannot decide how she wants it pronounced

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To be honest I really don't mind, though for appointments etc I am usually

called by my surname.

 

Most people I know just call me Deb or Debbie and, occasionally I am

called Deborah (which is my name but it's a bit formal and I only used

to be called that when I was naughty at school!)

 

My surname is often pronounced as Carton or Cat on whereas it is

prnounced Cayton and spelt Caton.  I don't mind that much unless it's

some bothersome robot cold-calling on the phone!

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Hmmm , well lets see

 

At home I'm mum nain or nana

 

In the village I am so and so's daughter

 

At work my colleagues use my middle name

 

At the Doctors I'm Ms *******

 

at the pub I was always love, darling and sometimes "oy you"

 

and occasionally people who don't know me use my first name (which I never use as go by my middle name)

 

So basically call me what you want and I'll usually respond



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I really don't mind as long as it is polite!

 

I have a delivery driver who always refers to me as Mrs B. It's Miss, on every parcel, but that's how he addresses me. But he is a nice fella and I know if I ever have a parcel due from that delivery company, it will always be within the delivery slot.

 

School always call me Mrs R...... (my kids surname) which is a tad annoying.

 

I didn't like the former jailbird who tried to sell me wares from his bag after knocking my door and asking if I was the lady of the house?! Hate that terminology. 

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I am with Towery too. Formal until asked what I would prefer. Friends can call me what they like!

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If I have an appointment with a "strange" professional I prefer to be addressed as Mrs ???????.

 

All the folks who know me well use my initials.

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Professionals that I've known for years such as my dentist I don't mind using my first name, but 'new' people I prefer to be called by my surname, especially younger  (ok, very young) people.


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I hate being asked if I am the lady of the house too! I can't decide if its patronising or what, but cold callers seem to have a habit of saying it.

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i would like to be called HRH but it hasnt caught on so farSmiley LOL

 

i dont really mind

preferring polite over"correctness"

 

I dont mind "lady of the house"

i know they are asking  in a polite/tad cheesy way "can you make decisions?"

and asking for the "gentleman of the house" would be FAR more patronising

 

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Lol Merlin.

 

It is of course how one says it.  There's a chap on the gate, sometimes, at a company I visit.  If he calls me Honey once more an official complaint will go in and we will change companies for that service.  He's slow at his job, asks too many questions and gives me the creeps.

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honey is a bit Smiley Frustrated though isnt it?

its not polite, 

i do sometimes cringe at over familiarity like that, 

where i live there are quite a few elderly people, and a few of them will call me "dear"

i dont mind that at all, i figure they could call me much worse!Smiley LOL

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I cannot stand being called "Dear." Aarrgghh!! I once slipped up and told my then boyfriend that I  didn't like to be called "Duck." Met his mother and that was one of her sayings, oops! I have a few friends now from Lincolnshire who are always saying Duck, it doesn't bother me now, I quite like it. I must have mellowed with age. Woman Happy

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duck must be a regional thing

i would "quack" every time someone called me duckSmiley LOL

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I prefer it to be formal when attending appointments etc, I am just over sixty but hate it when being served in a shop and being called HUN or BABE, yuk it makes me cringe, I feel like saying I am not a Hun , but British born and bred, but I don't suppose they would know what I meant and I am certainly not a babe.

It really makes me cringe to the point my teeth start to hurt

I usually just turn round and walk away
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I used to have a doctor once who always called me duck!  (unless it was in reference to the low door frame she had!) Woman Very Happy

 

My daughter and I both know a workman who always calls her 'princess'.  She just wants to slap him, he thinks he's god's gift.  Our toes hurt with curling in our shoes when we see him!!Woman Mad


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I don't really mind what people call me....at least it means they are talking to me giggling smilie.gif

 

Although I always feel as though I'm in trouble when my Christian name is used in full,I blame Mum for that........

 

Having said that I feel happier to be addressed as Mrs W****** first off and then I often say ''oh please call me *** '' (shortened first name)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

unless it's a snit of a bum draggin' yoof who thinks they are entitled to call me babe! They soon learn that I ain't no babe.......smilie censored.gif

 

 


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