What is your OH's most annoying/irritating habit?

[rainydaywoman11]

He doesn't listen - does.not.listen - drives me round the bend - plus he talks all over me before I can get me sentence finished **scream**.

I have to give him a note if he's going down the road for stuff, whether it's picture hangers or food - THE MAN IS 72!

Example - new garden down the road at other house.  Neglected, untouched for 5 years.  I've pulled tons of weeds, removed miles of ivy, been up trees with me bow saw cutting branches, brought back to life beautiful rhodies that hadn't been fed (they were a picture this year).

So, I'm tired.  And I mean (with my illness), ready to fall over.  'Can I give you a hand' - he says.  I should have said no, but I thought even you can't screw this up.  So I'm asleep.  His instructions, verbal, were, remove all the greenery in that corner except the wee green treee, it's bonny and gives a bit colour.

I awake - open the curtains - no tree.  NO TREE.  I don't say much cos I don't want to waste my energy getting mad.  Not much point anyway, the tree is history.  I was in tears.  It was 'leave me alone' time.  As someone said elsewhere - I coud have been out on parole by now.

Plus he need a hearing aid, but that's a whole other chapter, lol.

[**towery**]

toilet seat left up

only hears what he wants to hear

and dont get me started on tooth glue in the kitchen sink plug hole

off to  breathe  lol

[chickengrandma-2008]

His bad habits don't matter any more. 

[chickengrandma-2008]

But having said that, there isn't enough ink in my computer to list them all!!  

[aernethril]

Poor Rainy - poor wee tree.

Perhaps he thought you said 'especially' not 'except' - especially if he needs a hearing aid.

I does not have an OH - thank goodness - the last one just about wrecked everything enough so I'm not going there again.

[**towery**]

ive learnt to say

'did you hear me?  and do you understand?

i also write things on the board/calendar in the kitchen that w pass on the way into it

not that it helps, as ive walked passed it all week without buying onions when i went to the shops  lol

[stroppy*cow]

I can only echo you

He doesn't listen - does.not.listen - drives me round the bend - plus he talks all over me before I can get me sentence finished **scream**.

I have to give him a note if he's going down the road for stuff, whether it's picture hangers or food and even then he comes back with a ton of stuff I didn't ask for and only half of the stuff that I did ask for.

I'm not going down the "needs a hearing aid" route, lets just say that his hearing is highly selective.

I sympathise with the tree - I had a 12 foot high bay tree (took many years to get it like that), was a lovely shape, tapering towards the top - he cut it down to under 5 foot, ruined the shape as he just cut it straight off. What's more when I saw what he had done he expected mt to be pleased!

[bitsnknots]

Carol, that sounds an awful lot like my mother.  She cannot, does not and will not listen.  She also talks over me.  I know for a fact I've told her things and she says I haven't.  Tell her not to do a thing and she does it.  She does know that I would go mad at her if she did things like lifting anything heavy so she doesn't bother.  I think that is the only thing that she will do as she's told.

[stan3502]

Same here just does not listen and even if he does only hears what he wants or reinterprets it so he gets what he wants

Never lets me finish a sentence , well why woulh he when he knows what I'm going to say apparently

and is so quick to offer to do other peeps jobs when I been waiting years to get stuff done

but then again I'm sure I have some habits that annoy him too and at the end of the day althugh he's not very good at showing it I do know he loves me

[saasher2012]

My only beef is the fact he's dragging his feet over the divorce & I can't move on until he does , I'm sort of in limbo, married but not married , single but not single& some days it just gets too much, perhaps I could borrow the tree feller & do a bit of heavy pruning.
Sorry does that sound self pitying! Bad Day!!

[bitsnknots]

Sandra, that doesn't sound self pitying at all.  It's an awful feeling when things are like that because you just want things to be finalised.

[rainydaywoman11]

OH Stroppy I know.  Give you a laugh.  It is his job to empty the kitchen bin, and also to keep it clean (fancy foot pedal simple human).  These changes were implemented after I became ill. before that I did everything.

My absolute, total, complete pet hate is a overflowing bin.  So -pse empty when three quarters full, otherwise you can't get the bleedin' bag out of the s*dding bin because it's jam packed full. Weeeeellll, last week - same thing happens, plus the bag splits when I do manage to get it out.  I've got a broken bone in my foot and have been  projectile vomiting all day, so feeling just a wee bit tetchy.

So, I cleaned it all up, put everything in a black bin liner - went to his room - sound asleep - we have separate rooms and sometimes separate houses, I highly recommend it, but I digress.  Lifted the duvet cover, deposited bag and said in a soothing voice 'there you go sweetheart' and left the room.

About 15 mins later, himself stomps up the hall and greets me with 'there's something wrong with your head' - me - 'I know darling I married you'.  Funny thing, bin's pristine and emptied frequently.  I'm nuts aren't I? And dont give a fig 

[chickengrandma-2008]

My husband is not a violent man, but if I'd done that I would have found the contents of that bag in my bed that night!

[**towery**]

what gets me with  men is that if you ask them to do something more than twice  you are nagging them

if they ask you they expect it done  immediately, they want everything dropping so you can get on with it

and dont get me started an finding things in drawers

they open a drawer, ecpect whatever they are looking for to be on top of the other **bleep** they have shoved in there,  they 'can't find it'

i go lift up 2 envelopes  and its in my hand

[ed_blackadder_1]

Oh dearie me drawers. Where have you put my .... and I havent put it anywhere. Also he snores. Not major problems just a bit annoying sometimes

[captainbovine]

it's so funny this as they all seem to do the same!!!!!

one of his bad traits is to sneak up on me, frighten the beejeebers out of me and then he says I MUST have heard him coming.

Gawd, don't ya just love 'em!!!

[ed_blackadder_1]

Oh and you make a point if telling them something ans then they say .....yiu didn't tell me you never tell me anything. Huh

[ed_blackadder_1]

Sorry for spelling podgy fingers on rather small phone keyboard.

[mouse4702]

I don't have an OH as such but I am "walking out" with a gentleman friend even if nowt is going on in the boudoir, HIS annoying habits are that he can't get through the day without ringing me up about 6 times to say he's awake, he's had breakfast, he's going to work, he's home from work etc. His mother was the same and his sister is the same - I work with his BIL, so it's a genetic thing apparently! And he thinks he's the centre of the universe. Anything you do is second to what he's done. You've got a black cat, his is blacker than yours.

[paul4757]

I'll put these fom a guys pov mainly from an ex.

If you don't know I won't tell you - Then we will never know and it isn't our fault.

Honestly don't get me anything for christmas\birthday valentines day - Don't get in a mood

then if we don't.

Be honest, do I look fat in this - If you don't want the truth don't ask.

She also didn't understand how shops work!!

We once spent 12 hours in the Trafford Centre shopping for clothes for her and she

still didn't buy anything and that was a good days shopping!!

Regarding the toilet seat thing just look down before you sit.

That may not have been th idea of the thread but I had to get it off my chest without

being hit