04-09-2013 10:21 AM
Seems like a romantic start to the day what with Fishy's Anniversary!
What would your tips be for a good relationship or marriage? Love to hear your thoughts. My last relationship lasted 13 years but I think it failed because we stopped working at it.
Maybe - just maybe... I have the glimmer of something new if the butterflies are anything to go by. What are your secrets for making those butterflies last or at least not fly away!?
04-09-2013 10:28 AM
Talk to each other, communicate.
04-09-2013 10:31 AM
Patience and understanding
04-09-2013 11:02 AM
04-09-2013 11:08 AM
I would say that whilst having shared interests is important, so is having separate interests and also spending at least short periods away from each other (like when at work).
It will be 39 years in a couple of weeks.
04-09-2013 11:10 AM
04-09-2013 11:15 AM
Mine would have been 46 years next month.
04-09-2013 11:25 AM
Millie, I really like what you wrote there....particularly the bit about values being the same.
I found this quotation the other day and its really nice...
"Love is walking on the same path with your partner and having a convergence of ideas and beliefs"
04-09-2013 12:34 PM
Talking things out instead of bottling things up.
Doing romantic things for each other frequently.
Looking after each other and caring about each others health.
Supporting
Not partaking in anything extra marital or cheating.
04-09-2013 2:36 PM
All the above, and don't say or do anything you know will hurt your other half...
04-09-2013 2:41 PM
All of the above,
Give and take,
Having a certain amount of independance, (I have seen many women go to pieces when their marriage breaks up because they can't do anything on their own)
Having different interests as well as doing things together.
Laughter,
25 years last month.
04-09-2013 4:58 PM
Stroppy....we work together too, on the same dept: mind you I can go most of the morning and hardly see him.
he has never been one for opening his heart sharing problems though, I've had to drag out of him most stuff that was bothering him.....
Maggie, your OH is still with you though and always will be.
04-09-2013 5:01 PM
"Having a certain amount of independance, (I have seen many women go to pieces when their marriage breaks up because they can't do anything on their own)"
This goes for men too when the wife has done all the paperwork etc!
04-09-2013 5:30 PM
04-09-2013 5:45 PM
Apart from one, who is the partner of a friend whose wife died, the group of friends that I'll be going out with tonight, and have done every week/fortnight for 38 years, have all been married longer than I have. I've been married 45 years next month.
I agree with all that's been said, even though hubby and I are like chalk and cheese. Food, entertainment, friends and hobbies, are all different, but as someone said earlier, our basic values and ambitions are the same. We do our own thing during the day and in the evening we sit in separate rooms to watch different programmes on TV, or sit in different rooms doing different things on our computers. Not for long though because he always goes to bed early and gets up early, and of course, I'm just the opposite! We've spent day and night together since he retired 20 years ago, before that we worked together.
05-09-2013 11:34 AM
Seems to be a pattern forming here, Marry someone totaly different from you and do everything seperately and you stay together longer. We are like that but still love each other and want to be together after 25 years.
I have friends of my age 50s who have to ask the other half if they can go out because he doesn't like to be on his own, - really!