anybody up?

[wizilizi]

I haven't been able to sleep

Aaaaaaaaaagh

Just want to shout!!

DD being so rude & hurtful;  I got sooooo upset after she'd gone off to bed 

Only punishing myself

Stoopid stoopid stoopid

[artisanone11]

 Wizi sorry you've had a bad night,, I should probably know this, but is she a teenager by any chance?

[aileen323232]

I'm up, been up and about for the last hour or so.

[guardpig]

Morning Wiz, Arti, Aileen - have one of those.  Sends texts, upsets me, she goes to bed, I can't sleep!!!

Always up at this time making sure OH goes off to work safely.

[bitsnknots]

Morning all.  I'm normally up at 7 and I do the breakfasts and then take my mum's breakfast into her.  

Sorry to hear about your problems Wizi.  Hope that everything is sorted today.  

I admit to not sleeping well last night for what reason, I do not know.  For the first couple of times I got up to go to the bathroom, all my mother wanted to do was talk.  All I wanted to do was sleep.

[rsjlew]

Do you think it was the full moon? I couldn't sleep either and am in a foul mood today as a result Everything is winding me up and I pity anyone who I come into contact with tbh!

Let's hope we all get a better night tonight, eh?

[wizilizi]

Sorry about that folks, & thank you for your kind responses everybody 

She's not a teenager, no - she's 30

She has some issues (Aspergers)  V clever - works in San Francisco, & is home for sister's wedding on Saturday, & Christmas

I think we misunderstood each other - isn't it usually a communication issue?!  I shouldn't get so emotional

I feel I've failed her.  She's the eldest, & is a-typical.  30 years ago we didn't know what is now known, but it's hard being a parent, isn't it, & easy to feel guilt, whether or not there's some sort of explanation

I guess the wedding & Christmas, whilst both fun things, are stressors - add into that her jet-lag, & that she arrived Sunday & went into work in London from Monday - well, that would get to the calmest of us, wouldn't it?

Can I moan a bit about something else?  OH booked for us to go out for Christmas lunch (it being just after the wedding weekend) but the young adults pressed for being home.  I was happy & ordered food from a supermarket.  It arrived today with only half the quantity of meat 

We won't starve, but what with the lack of sleep & the emotional battering I am clutching my forehead here!!!! *groans feebly*

I do appreciate that there are many far more massive worries for folks - it's just me seeping steam out of every orifice & it's venting your way!!

[**towery**]

Wizi  if they want xmas dinner at home then  send them shopping for the missing bits  ]:)

just relax,  enjoy the  wedding  this weekend, 

daughters - meh  isnt that  what they  say these days  🙂

[guardpig]

(((Wizi))))  The walking on eggs is so stressful, then a wedding and Christmas.  Doubt anyone is going to starve on Xmas day with half the meat.  Plan a couple of veggie meals or send somebody out for more. You will read this tomorrow and wonder what the problem was.

The other day son came down the stairs and ran back up them again.  All he said was "mu-um" and I snapped - just too much wanted from me.

[bitsnknots]

Wizi, if you want to moan, please feel free.  Must admit there are times, I feel like screaming over my mum.  She will not have it that she just doesn't listen.  She has an appointment at the hospital in the morning and I know now that she'll ask if I am going in to see the doctor with her.  It's a matter of having to do because I know very well that she just won't listent to what's being said.

[artisanone11]

Wizi ranting here is a much better idea than ranting there.

This may sound strange, but dealing with two late diagnosis middle age people with ASD, and a younger one spotted earlier, thirty is an early teen in terms of emotional development.

You haven’t failed her, you’ve done the best you could, at the time you had, with the tool kit you had available to you, like the rest of us. Some got handled bigger challenges but no one got additional tools then.

Yes it nearly always is a communication issue, but always having to be the one getting communication right and tailoring it to a different set of needs, is very very wearing, that’s without weddings, jet lag, Christmas prep etc. Take a deep breathe over it, life is designed to drive us slowly insane.

Hope today is a beter day for you.

[saasher2012]

Take a day out from it all girl! Go for a nice long walk, clear your head do a bit of me time. Difficult I know but well worth it. Remember! Things always seem worse at night, silly things are said to hurt & in this case it obviously has. But very seldom are they meant! Be a little kinder to yourself , kids are selfish& thoughtless sometimes, when your calmer & more together talk to them about it. I dare say they will be horrified to know how much they've hurt & taken you for granted. Sam.

[rsjlew]

Hope everyone slept better last night/ No nocturnal chatting on here anyhow

Wise words ,as ever Arti x