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hypnotherapee · ‎24-11-2013

Hi all, hope everyone is well. Haven't been around for a while due to all sorts of problems.

Currently feeling very low. Have had 3 deaths in the family within 7 weeks, with all the fallout that comes with it. I feel like a professional funeral goer and arranger. MIL was one of the people who passed away in a Nursing Home, and we had several weeks of 'she's not got long to go now' but carry on she did, for weeks longer than expected. It was agonising.

After the final funeral last week, I felt that those were our 'things that come in threes' done and dusted. But it's not to be. Just when I feel I can get some sense or normality back, it appears that my son and his wife are separating. They have a one year old daughter, the light of my life, and feel as sick as a pig and in tears all the time.

Do I muddle through, or should I seek help? Hubbie is being a star, but I just cant stop crying at the moment. Sorry to be sick in everyone's bucket. Not sure what to do.................................

*elphaba* · ‎26-11-2013

I'm delighted you feel a little better, Hypno, I hope you can build on it.

As a guide, 2 weeks of persistent low mood, tearfulness, that nothing helps is the big red flag that says you need to consult a doctor. All else being 'normal' most people, even in grief, can find brighter moments that bring at least a little oasis' of rest given the right circumstance/stimulus. Nothing making any difference for that extended period (and acting the part of being cheered up doesn't count) is the big warning sign that something more than natural grief is going on.

I am very sorry for your losses, and wish you and yours better times ahead

rose2008-2008 · ‎27-11-2013

Your not ALONE HYPNO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.... never think you are.

((())) ((()))

wizilizi · ‎27-11-2013

Nope, you know you're not alone here Hypno

I have massive sympathy too - a while back, we managed to see off both my parents & much loved MIL in a short space of time, alongside serious issues in our own family. Very tough indeed

Talking about it does help; even with those going through it too. We're all so different & have varying perspectives & are therefore able to buoy each other up somewhat

Nevertheless some of us had outside support as well; I concur with the others. Talk to your GP - & to as many people as you can; talking really does help you to process your emotions. Without knowing you at all, I bet you are a good listener for others. Now you are in need of that same kindness & understanding

Look after yourself too. Get cozy XXXX