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I was wakened from a lovely sleep (managed one hour), by a telephone from my girlfriend, She had been drinking and when that is how she is, she just rings and rings the phone. I am not turning it off in case my elderly Dad has a problem She was reacting to a email I sent re. my plans including the property schedule.
I intend to buy my brother a flat (studio) tenement and not expensive, because he is in a tower block which had a good reputation when he moved in, almost 20 years ago. He has been perfectly happy until now, but the council, in their wisdom are 'lowering the tone' and brother says, using it as a dumping ground for problem cases, and incomers disrespectful of their surroundings and their neighbours,
Now there is always trouble with the lift which they mess about with, and brother lives on the 16th floor. The plants and nice bits outside their doors, gone - stolen. Noise and disturbance, always people coming and going and the man cannot get any peace. Lots of incomers as well as locals. He asked for a transfer and was offered 3 flats, which he said you would not keep a dog in. So now he goes to the bottom of the queue.
Numbers 2 and 3 - want to pay off my sister's mortgage, only 3 years left (She works caring for dementia patients, not well paid and it would make a real difference to her) and lastly buy the younger brother a new car, approved electrician, works all over the central belt. I am doing this because I don't see the point in my having the ability to help them now, I could live a few years and would leave them the same anyway. Seems to make sense to me.
My girlfriends problem is that there was a long period of estrangement and I was the outcast, not their fault, they were acting on the 'wishes' of my domineering mother. Now my friend thinks I am mad to help them or leave them anything at all because of the past. She was quite vehement and angry and doesn't understand why I am not. Well, bridges have been built in the past 16 months and it is rather nice for me, getting to know them again. The brother in the flat always stayed in touch with me, if only intermittently.
She says they are using me whereas I think it makes sense - they need help now. I think that kind of anger is fruitless, I got over being angry a long, long, time ago, and just lived my life. Mostly happily too.
What do you guys think? I am a bit upset by her attitude, By the way it's ok I'll zonk in 5 
you do what you want to do Rainy, this way you get to do what you want to do with your money, you know what you have done has helped them enourmously.
life is too short to hold grudges, as long as you have all made your peace with each other, it's up to you how you sort things out.
I think you are amazing....so there...
Make yourself happy by doing what you want to do. You deserve it xxx
Thank you all so much. 
You see I feel guilty because I escaped and my mother wouldn't take me on so she told me she neither needed or wanted anything from me, it took me a long time to work out why she said it, but it dawned on me one day. I would have, and did, tell her to bog off.
In comparison to my siblings I have been so lucky. I've been, och, so many fab places, met great people, had a social life concerts, theatre, dinner parties (which were famous for nobody ever leaving), can't do that now 
But I digress, they have so much poverty of the soul it absolutely breaks my heart. And I have known great joy. And I have my son.
My sister is so lonely because when my youngest sister died (exactly 2 years today), she lost not only her sister, but her best friend of decades. They were very close. It took her nigh on a year to make contact, but the wall is slowly breaking. She is 56, size 10, fantastic fashion sense - me blue jeans, t shirt, ballet flats, but at least a Joe Brown coat and always a great handbag. Her - purple tights, black pumps and a long black cardigan with green and purple embroidery, worn as a dress with a belt. She was always funky. I am trying to convinve her to try online dating - I wonder if anyone knows of any good sites/agencies. I'd chaperone her and sit at the back in case he's a raving psycho 
She laughed from her belly when I said that. Thanks to Mummy though, she has the self esteem of a gnat, so I've a lot of work to do.
I was really taken aback by A. and her aggressive attitude. The world is so strange.
They are my blood after all and I have known them for a very long time, lol.
P.S. Dear Mr. Moderator, if you should read this post, these are the women of a certain age (all of us) who put the fun into this Board. I find it sad that for such petty reasons (and yes they are the rules, I accept that, I signed up for it, but perhaps the rules should be amended), the flow of the banter is interrupted, people become disheartened so don't bother posting. These are good, kind, generous women, to a man I am not saying it will happen, because I always hope new folks come onboard, but if no-one posts, you won't have to close it. It will be a desert. What a shame. I, perhaps, due to terminal illness, have been afforded a lifeline at times on here, when I was in Hell, in pain, frightened and alone, so alone. Whatever the eventual outcome I will be grateful always for that.
You said she had been drinking?...we all say and do things which we regret when the cold light of day sobers us up...
Send her some flowers and say how much you appreciate her concerns and thank her for showing how much she cares about you....
And then do exactly what you want to do with your pennies...
