OMG im pregnant again at 41

[funkyfootsies]

Hi all im having a bit of a meltdown i have just found out i am pregnant again today, im 41 and this will be our 5th child.

This pregnancy was not planned i am on the pill but had a sickness bug which i guess must have been the cause of the pill failing.

Im just nervous about my age and if there could be something wrong, our other children are 21,19,11 and 4 funny enough my 4th pregnancy when i was 38 was actually the easiest but i know all pregnancies are different and now being over the 40 mark im in the at risk age.

I know it will be hard work with a newborn that im prepared for and know what to expect, its the tests etc.. that i may have to have because of my age.

Im also worried as i have recently come off Champix the stopping smoking drug, and ive been taking 600mg ibuprofen for headaches, i dont drink but god knows what harm those pills could have done, and if they would even pick up any damage at an early stage scan or if it would not show up until later.

Im booking a doctors appointment tomorrow and hopefully get a scan booked as soon as possible.

Any older mums on here who could give me any advice id be very grateful.

Thankyou xxx

[huggles1253]

Congratulations!

[artisanone11]

Congratulations!  🙂

This has to be a bit dashed, but  you don’t have to have any tests you don’t want.

I was pushed to have, rather than offered, tests for Down’s syndrome, and decided that if the child I was carrying had it, well it wasn’t going to change the way I felt, so why make it harder by having tests that weren’t that great for the baby, in order to know earlier?

Unless it determines what you do next, I’d still steer clear. Lots of women find themselves having taken all sorts not knowing they were pregnant and spent their pregnancies being unnecessarily worried.

I hope that makes sense, because I don’t mean to sound flippant, but at the same time there’s a lot of peace in taking the ‘what will be, will be, route.’

Hope all goes to plan and you can get your appointment soon. 🙂

[huggles1253]

I found out about my first after a very active skiing holiday both on and off the slopes! Was convinced I must have harmed him! I think you'll be fine. Knackered, but fine!

[****daisy****]

Huge congratulations 😄

Lots of people with unplanned babies have probably done harmful things smoked/drank/medication and suffered no ill effects

[hightara]

congratulations funkyfootsies,

i had my little girl when i was 40, was also using protection, i was terrified that the medication that i had been taking (which was alot)  would have harmed her.

i was shocked at first, as i had already four boys well grown up.

but you know what, she was perfect, and we just adapted and squished everybody in:-D

many many people have taken something when they dont realise they are pregnant, please try not to focus on how that may affect the baby, and enjoy your pregnancy.

the boys being older, play with her, take her out leaving me some time to do other wee things, im more patient now as an older mum.

enjoy, enjoy, enjoy:-x

[leoleoleo123]

I had an 11 year gap between my two girls...

my youngest is now nearly 17 and i was considered an older mum at 39!

I had her at home and no problems other than i was actually sick during the pregnancy and only felt sick with the first!

Congratulations!

[*chez*]

I announced my third pregnancy at my 40th birthday party...14 years gap between 2nd and 3rd child.

I was the oldest Mum at the school gates and am the same age as a lot of his friends grandparents.

Yes, I get tired but I am certainly more relaxed with this one! ( the others say he gets away with murder) he doesn't really.. I just don't panic over him doing stuff cos I know what to expect..

[petitecalicocat]

Congratulations funkyfootsies 🙂

I had all the tests with my first pregnancy but when offered for the second i refused them.

Its really up to you to say what tests you want.

[ilove2patch]

Congratulations Funky.:-D

You are the only one who can decide about the tests. Ask yourself all the relavent questions & be honest with yourself about your answers. Don't let feeling guilty cloud your judgment. My daughter had the Downs test as she knew she would be unable to cope with an affected child. I would have thought no less of her had she made the difficult decision to terminate. Not being heartless, just my thoughts.:-x

Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy.:-)

[Anonymous]

Congratulations funkytootsies 🙂

Your body, your decisions 🙂 Best of luck with whatever you decide to do

xx

[duck_a_lorange]

My mum had me at 42 and my sister at 44.  No tests in the late fifties and we were both fine. 🙂

[*pixachu*]

Congratulations!

Try not to worry, and only have the tests you want - there is every chance this baby will be fine. You already have healthy children, so there is a good chance this one will be fine.

Many of my friends have had first babies at 40 or older with no problems at all with the babies. They were mostly natural conceptions, and they also had no significant problems during pregnancy (they all worked throughout)

Anyway, what a lovely surprise :-x

[funkyfootsies]

Thanks everyone i do feel better now, i just got back from the doctors who has booked me in for a dating scan as soon as possible, i mentioned to her the pills i was on and they are fine to take while pregnant apart from the champix which is still too early to tell any side effects as its quite a new drug.

But im hoping i had stopped taking then before i fell pregnant i just cant remember when i last took them.

I have to phone the midwife now and book blood tests which im fine with and my booking in appointment, hopefully i will feel a bit better after the first scan if that all looks ok.

Thankyou everyone xxx

[cat-knitter]

Congratulations :-x

My Mum had me at 43 & I had my youngest at 38 we were both fine, I was offered certain tests but declined all of them, its down to you if you have any or not ......... don't be swayed in your desicions, personally my opinion is if you plan on keeping the baby whatever, then why have them in the first place, I know its better to be aware if there are problems but some tests have also known to be wrong :-x

[geranne28]

Congratulation footsie!

My Mum had my youngest brother when she was 42+

It was the 'most sleepy' pregnancy she had out of 9 children.  (No time to worry as she just had to sleeeeeeeep!)

My Mum elected NOT to have any tests as it would not have changed the outcome.  Be in control of your new pregancy/special life because you have been chosen to be an 'older Mum'. You will probably turn out to be an inspiration to other younger Mums.

Good luck - and feel free to keep this thread updated so we can all enjoy the highs and support you with the lows.

:-x

[funkyfootsies]

Arhhhh geranne28 that bought tears to my eyes "you have been chosen to be an older mum" what a lovely way of looking at it.

I will certainly keep you all up to date :-x

[geranne28]

Can you hear the clickety click of knitting needles ?

(No that is not the women sitting round a guillotine!)

Keep us updated on our new FHG baby..... take care of yourself and keep little bean safe.

[**streety**]

How wonderful Footsie :-x

Now you are over the shock you can get excited and have the joy of planning for a newborn.

I often wonder whether IF I ever met someone would I go through it again

[purplepennyb]

Congratulations! Remember to relax, breathe and don't be afraid to question things.

:-x