Oh, you like a challenge
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Firstly, in all my days of PC Support, I can honestly say that Cable Select will cause grief somewhere along the line. The only place where this in not the case (that I've experienced) is the original Xbox. [Grab one for putting Gentoo on it - that'll keep you busy :-p]
Go for a Master/Slave combination - search around the internet will get the jumper position that you require, if not on the drive itself. The BIOS will always try to first boot from the Master drive (with Cable Select, gawd knows! ;-)).
One caveat: Some drives do not like to reside on the same IDE channel as those from another manufacturer. You may have to settle for 2 Master drives on different channels, with DVD/CD drives set as Slaves.
It's been too long since I put two drives in the desktop PC, to remember exact details about booting from the Slave drive. Details have moved on in any case.
You are along the right lines with drive names.
(hd0,1) or /dev/sda1 - 1st partition of Master drive
(hd1,1) pr /dev/sdb1 - 1st partition of Slave drive
assuming on the same IDE channel.
Otherwise /dev/sdc1 for the Master on the Secondary IDE channel. As for (hd2,1), your guess would be as good as mine
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Do NOT share the home partition - well I wouldn't advise it. In theory it should be OK but the programs for each distribution would have to be at the same major release. Otherwise, you may end up with bizarre user settings. Home contains so-called hidden files that determine your user profile, amongst others. Better/safer to have a shared /data partition.
Start with Windoze, then install Mint/Ubuntu in whatever order that you fancy - either should cope with booting from a secondary drive. Personally, I'd leave Mint to last 'cos I prefer the boot splash screen :8}
During the install, look for the dropdown tab (Advanced?) that tells where to install the boot loader to in both cases, it should be (hd0).
You could/can install the second Distro boot record to the secondary drive but this will require manual adjustment of the grub boot list (may require chainloading).
I flipped back to Windows yesterday (to have a quick go of UnetbootIn, for the 'safe' Linux CD project) but 'wisnae happy'. I'm even starting to use Gimp now (but still prefer PSE 5 for photo retouching etc.) If only it could use a fixed toolbar interface. I tried GimpShop (sometime ago) but couldn't see much improvement.
Triple booting, hmm, haven't booted into Dreamlinux for a couple of weeks ;-)

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