Friday Morning Grumpy Old Man post

[thehornets]

Call me grumpy, revolutionary, mad or whatever you want (I don't care - I'm thick skinned :-)), but why not only post a reply to a thread if you have something genuinely of interest to say? 😮

I do not post my successes because I want everyone to say "well done" to everything I get. I do it in the hope that it may be of interest or useful to at least one member, but if not, no biggie. Let's face it, it's not too hard to get replies from small part Doctor Who cast members and former Watford players. 🙂 Yes, if someone gets a cracking reply from someone who is genuinely tough to get and there is genuine "WOW!" factor, common sense dictates a "well done" would not be out of place, but not for every post!

The advantage of this revolutionary approach to posting is that it is genuinely easier to see when a post has updates, you will not have to wade through the spam to find the real content, and you will not see people miss genuinely important content such as on the Colin Firth post. The info about secretarials would have stood out more, and you would have less chance of people saying "well done" without seeing why it was not quite "well done".

Hands up who only reads the first post, and skips the rest as it looks like too much hassle to wade through a mass of replies especially when there is a lot of replies or you are busy?

Feet up if you feel obliged to say something in reply to every post whether you want to or not?

Quality of posts is far more important than quantity of posts.

blah blah - grump out of my system. ]:)

[thehornets]

I would never expect everyone to give a long winded reply to every post, that is not practical or possible. I do however ask people to consider how they reply, and if they need to reply, as time IS important. I will be blunt, when I see people reply to my posts with "well done", or other two word replies, I honestly think - why did you bother!

My primary reasons for posting are to show someone is signing (or not), share a scan for visual confirmation (useful for authenticity checks and/or for visual comparison), share information, and sometimes just to have a ramble as I like writing. 🙂 Occasionally I like to give a gift or have some fun with a competiton, and if I enjoy a post or have a point to get across will post accordingly. Interaction is key, but only if there is substance to it. I don't need a pat on the back or encouragement. If someone has something interesting to add to the thread, or has a question, or queries authenticity, etc, then that is fascinating, and it is great to see. If no-one cares about my posts, that is ok also. 🙂

I have caught myself giving some replies lacking substance on occasion, and berated myself. It is not fair to the thread originators who deserve more respect.

I certainly do not subscribe to the argument that people need encouragement to send more requests out. We all hopefully take part in this great hobby because we enjoy it, so I do not see why anyone enjoying their hobby would need encouragement? Help yes, but not encouragement - two different things. We all need help in this hobby, no matter how many years we have been doing it.

If a thread gets 60 looks and between 10 to 15 replies, you will probably find it is the same 10 to 15 people causing the thread count to go that high, not really lurkers. The view count goes up every time we look, so if you look at the thread four times, you add 4 to the count. I would estimate that most of us look at many threads at least 4 times, possibly more in some cases. It is linked to this that I find the two word replies frustrating as I will check a thread to see what is being said if I see the reply count increment, but get dismayed as I am looking for info or discussion, and only find a "well done", or similar. When you are short on time, or on a mobile device, this really is frustrating!

I do not mind admitting I am dismayed by the replies to this thread as interesting as they are, and I do thank every one who has replied. It is good to see the viewpoints, even if I do not agree with them. I have told Daz more than once that I am different to everyone else on this forum and that I do not fit in, but he tells me otherwise, so I have continued posting. I think this thread proves my case.

[tots-junction-baby-shop]

Nigel we are all different and it wouldnt do for us all to be the same...so lets just carry on and next Friday you just stay in bed and dont switch your phone on ...and we still love you :-x

Jane xx

[thehornets]

Sorry Jane, that was the crassest reply I could have possibly expected. It has served one purpose though, and helped me finalise a decision I should have made a long time ago. Take care, and be lucky.

[tots-junction-baby-shop]

I'm absolutely gobsmacked! I'm sure thats what you wanted all along you just wanted a way out! Well you stay as obviously your input is far superior to mine or to that matter a lot on here ...I'll go ......Bye!

[loobyloo6]

Come on Guys..the last thing the forum need now is for two regulars to pack it in....there aren't enough as it is

posting.....:-(:_|]:)

[wheel-lose]

very unfortunate  outcome to a thread,looks like jane has left,nigel,i dont understand why you would feel that you dont fit in here?your one of members that probably fits in the most,i can understand your frustration with the and comments,but i too think that is better than nothing,especially when the members are expected to take the time to upload photos in the first place,its the least that can be done,all members cant be knowledgable in every field of collecting,and thus cant comment in depth on something they know probably very little about,that is not to say they dont appreciate the other collectors choice of collecting,we can all relate to popular celebrities once faced with someone elses success,we know them,but are not as intrested in them as the original poster,but nevertheless give our appreciation,one for the upload,2 for there efforts,,3 for sharing there success,,,i would also like to see more in depth discussions on the group,where we can all learn more about the hobby,i understand nigels frustration in this department,,and i will be working in the future on ways to try and and bring this to a reality

daz

-- Edited by wheel-lose at 06/26/2011 10:37 AM BST

[rainbow-rising-records]

If people didn't respond to success reports, there'd be no point posting them in the first place. If that were the case, I'd just go back to lurking on FanMail.biz. A 'well done' is better than being ignored.

However, constructive feedback is always going to be more valuable than a simple 'well done'.

Jay

[milly6660]

is your i.d. from the rainbow album?

[westiesx2]

If both Jane and Nigel have decided to leave then this is a sad day for the forum. Two of the best on here. We do not have many that comment as it is, so to lose two from that number is bad news. Get them back!!!!

[sylouisetruebluechelsea]

It is sad to lose members on this forum ,i think sometimes on here it is best to keep your thoughts to yourself or someone gets upset and leave this is the 2nd time jane has left i dont think Nigel has left but i think a simple grump about posting has led too feelings being hurt .

I have not posted on the bootsale thread for ages now as i found no point as members were not looking so i dont want to waste my time uploading photos for maybe 3 people too comment my own group is the same but i only have 35 members and still commenting on results .

Although i do read the charity shop finds i only really comment on the sporting finds and not that often but i always comment on others results .

[rcsmg1]

Why is it whenever I've not been able to sign in for a few days,something big always breaks out and everyone gets upset?

I see Nigels point and I am often guilty of just a 'well done' or 'nice reply' but I always look at all the posts and if I have a worthwhile comment I will make it.

Often time constraints as I can only sign on every couple of days mean I only leave short replies,wish I could think of something original to say for each one.

Hopefully Jane and Nigel will be back (I'm still reading all the posts so this may have already been resolved) as we can't afford to lose too many good members.

[rainbow-rising-records]

is your i.d. from the rainbow album?

Milly6660, Yeah I am a big fan of Dio, Sabbath, Rainbow etc. Dio's autograph was one of the first I got.

[milly6660]

ian gillans was one of my first but i'm identical in your superb taste in music

rainbow rising

gates of babylon

top tunes

[6387donald]

I am a member that just puts on most post, great result well done, if any member is not happy with that then there is no point in being a member of this group, as I do not send out many letters these days but do leave replies to most successes.

If any member is unhappy with that then message me.

Why get grumpy over that beats me.