There are some nasty people about

[carolyorkie2010]

I was telling some neighbours, who I thought were also my friends, the latest on my Brother, which is that he had a heart attack on Monday and the hospital broke 2 of his ribs when they were resuscitating him; now I know this can happen. But these people said he would be better off dead, especially if he needs everything doing for him! Now that has really upset and hurt me, as my poor Brother WANTS to live and see his Grandchildren grow up. Some things should be thought and not spoken. I always take things to heart and can't just shrug them off as ignorance. I wouldn't dream of saying anything like that.

[saasher2012]

Please don't take it to heart, treat it with the contempt it deserves, it probably came out wrong but either way save your emotions for your brother not some unfeeling ignorant people who should know better, hope your bruv improves, best wishes , Sam .

[calibra101]

What a dreadful thing to say. Put in his shoes I bet these people would think otherwise. I wish your brother the very best and hope things improve. Just think positive and try to ignore pathetic and callous comments . x

[bitsnknots]

What a disgusting and horrible thing to say.  I can fully understand why you are annoyed.

((((((((())))))))

[aernethril]

Carol - that is just too appalling for words, not just the utterly horrible attitude but that you now find you do not have these 'friends' and the feeling of betrayal it leaves you with.

We feel that we should be able to trust people to at least be decent, if not actually supportive in some small way or comment.

But sadly I think this is all too indicative of "broken Britain" which is getting worse and worse.

It's all about the 'big ME' and everyone else isn't worth anything that comes from our politicians and other 'dignitaries' and those who should have the integrity of their standing in public but who are even worse in their greed and anti-social moral turpitude.

As said, try not to think about this, put them right behind and under you as far as you can, and know that other people do wish good things for you, and your poor brother all the very best in his recovery.

[myraandjim]

It must be awful to have such a nasty mind and be incapable of sympathy or empathy as your neighbours obviously are, so I guess they should be pitied really. One day they may need a kind thought or deed and will wonder why they have nobody to turn to, so just ignore them and maybe even pity them if you have time to spare them another thought. For every nasty person in this world there are a number of lovely ones, it's just a case of sorting them out into those you want to keep around you and those you don't. Best wishes to you and your family.

[stan3502]

(((((((((((((( Carol )))))))))))

As my mother always said "If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all" and this is a perfect example.
Some peeps put their mouth into gear before engaging their brain and comments like that need only be ignored

[merc1_clocks]

 Oh Carol darlin...

[captainbovine]

The best thing to do is spend your time thinking of your brother, and praying for his health to improve, not to waste any time thinking of your nasty neighbours, they don't deserve your time.

I do hope he improves, of course he wants to live, it's his spirit that is keeping him fighting. Good luck to him and you of course.(((((((((sis and bro)))))))))

I too am sensative, far too much really, so I do know how you feel.

[merc1_clocks]

 

[captainbovine]

Merc, that's brilliant.

[fishpieface]

Good post Aernethril. 

What a horrible thing to say Carol, honestly I'm surprised people can even think like that of another

person, let alone say it.  Well maybe, I'm not so suprised, with the kind of stuff that frequents our

boards, our media etc etc nowadays.

However, as was also said above, for every nasty thought and person, there are loads of lovely

ones, though looking at our media/tv etc wouldn't have us thinking that, but we must believe it.

We're thinking of you and your brother Carol, wishing him a full recovery and hoping he will soon

feel better and able to begin the maybe slow but sure journey to being up and about once again.

Hugs,

Fishy x

[carolyorkie2010]

Thank you to all you lovely peeps on here, I really appreciate your support. Sister-in-law phoned tonight to say Steve is looking a bit brighter today. It seems to be one step forward and two back at the moment and the doctors have said again today that he will be in hospital for another 6 months.

As for these neighbours, they are old enough to know better, they are in their early 70's. I'm wondering if its because they have never ailed anything that they cannot offer sympathy or understanding to other people. No excuse though. It's at times like this that you find out who your true friends are.

[merc1_clocks]

 Carol...there is always someone here to hand-hold

[carolyorkie2010]

Thanks, Merc (((((Hugs to you.)))))

[calibra101]

Although I have not been posting here for long I really felt for you today. I am so glad your brother is looking brighter today. May his recovery continue on a steady path. Take care sweetheart.

[wizilizi]

I think that folk say things like that because they are reflecting some aspect of themselves, & they do not hear themselves as they speak

They can't help it - they are unable to see beyond their own orbit

I am not excusing rude behaviour, but as somebody mentions above, what they conveyed says more about them & their situation (possibly bitter, hurt, jealous - some negative feelings) than it does about you (loving, caring, compassionate)

It is ghastly to encounter that, when you are feeling so very fragile & worried.  It is my understanding that it's not unusual for ribs to be broken during resuscitation - they'll mend - & I very much hope for a good outcome for your brother XXXX

[petitecalicocat]

How some people can think like that i really dont know , they may feel very different if one of them  took ill .

Dont you waste any feelings for them not even anger their not worth it just concenrate on your brother getting well again , sending you ((hugs ))

[rose2008-2008]

Some people do not THINK,,,,,,,,,, before opening their mouths. I know its horrible ,but there are callous,,hard faced people about Carol. Sometimes i suppose they could have had a tough time at some point and switched off all feelings!!!. It can happen. Thats no excuse though to say that hun. You need to keep HOPE at this time not GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!. Your brother wants to LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Im sorry about his heart attack!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Hes a fighter im sure.

Dont take any notice or give a second thought to those people love!!. Their not worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

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[carolyorkie2010]

(((((HUGS))))) to all of you on here who have sent me positive vibes - YOU are my true friends and thank you. I sometimes wonder whether it is better to be hard-hearted in this life, those type of people seem to ail nothing! But if its your nature to be soft and caring, you can't change it.