I can't remember the name but I was listening to someone who had served with Prince Harry in the Army and was now an organiser for the Invictus Games.

i thought he had it right when he said that when you get married and have a family then that should, and does for most people, become the most important thing in your life.  If you believe that the best thing for your family is to change the way you are living the only life you  and your family will have then criticism of that change is out of order.