@g7mzh wrote:

so I now had to trigger a refund (which costs me money). 

 

I wasn't trying to sell outside Ebay, but Ebay seem to be trying to make me since I can't sell it with Ebay because they won't let me! And why do I have to pay to refund?

 


It doesn't cost you anything to refund.  Not sure why you think that?  The buyer's original payment will be released to you once you have issued the refund.