They are not a victim, they are a human being treated with love and care.

'Love and care' wow! More words with a totally different meaning than that which most people would put on them, how is being ostracised by your own family and your friends showing love and care?

The disfellowshipping is an outcome to ultimately help them into realising the seriousness of their wrong doing

Disfellowship is an action designed to put undue pressure on the person disfellowshipped, it's form of bullying when done and control when threatened by those who are so insecure they don't think their beliefs have sufficient merit to stand on their own,

Try as you might you cannot get away from the fact that those who make the rules do the choosing.