@i-am-legion-too wrote:
@lambsy_uk wrote:This is not about greetings it's about kissing someone you fancy, on a first date for example, should you have to ask first or should it be spontaneous? Have we read the article?
In my time I've never had to ask a girl if I could kiss them and I've never been left embarrassed either, all done on body language and instinct, besides they were all begging for it!
Correct, the link in OP is not about the quick peck(s) on the cheek and/or embrace as a form of greeting. Some have already said they find even that an invasion of their personal space, a view I don't share, but willingly respect.
The article is about whether an unwanted kiss can be a form of sexual assault. As the Nigel Evans case is mentioned in the first few paragraphs, if there are any around I'd like to ask this question to the heterosexual males on here.
In a social setting, if another man approached you and without further preamble gave you a long lingering kiss on the lips, what would be your first reaction, would you find it offensive?
As the article also touches on harrassment in the workplace and is not gender specific, I have a subsidiary question.
Would you be more inclined to grin and bear it if the other man was your boss/superior at work, would you complain or deal with it another way?
Great, something to discuss!
My first reaction to the man in the social setting would be one of surprise and flattery. I'd probably say "what the hell was that for?" and he'd say "just couldn't resitst", and I'd say "understandable."
I'm not one for making a big deal out of things though I will admit I may have reacted differently when younger, I'm in my 40s now. Of course things would also depend on the circumstances surroung this all; who it was, where, when and why, but on the whole I feel I'd take it in my stride.
Now if it were someone at work there's a big difference, no one in a work situation should be conducting themselves in such a way and for a boss it could be construde as taking advantage of their position, making a subordinate feel uncomfortable. Again though this can depend on circumstances such as the kind of relationship and raport you have with your boss. My instinct would be to complain though not necessarily depending on if I felt another course of action were more appropriate.
