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self control old chap, self control

I didn't know "book" had posted, perhaps you can give the post number;-)

If it was so important why raise the issue since it's clear what the result would be, so it's a complete waste of time and suggests a lack of candour

Simply address the issue in clear terms rather than let others draw out a position seemingly based on guile

I am not so arrogant as to summarise many situations by simply one word, I leave that to others and their horizontal "drifts".